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The Ultimate Tight Ass.

When did this become acceptable? Someone please tell me, because it’s getting worse by the day!

June was the ‘slump’ month for me. All I did was work, and subsequently I was only able to report the few snippets I was graciously given by my closest crew.

To make up for such a boring month, I have keenly attended parties and outings most of July, and I have to tell you that I have been appalled at, as well as appreciative of, the etiquette shown in the organization of some these social events.

It appears that what was once considered ‘normal’ and ‘acceptable’ social etiquette has become the exception.

For example, I attended an engagement party given by a family member recently. I breathed a sigh of relief when the invitation was extended to my significant other and stated a dress code that one could understand. Immediately I knew what to wear and who to bring.

The invitation also said that there would be supper, but not dinner. As one would expect on such an occasion, there was a full bar, and finger food was served throughout the evening. Thank you: normal and acceptable behaviour.

In the same vain, I was sent invitations to a friend’s 33rd birthday and to the engagement party of another family member. (The marriage bug is biting everywhere I look at the moment). Once again the invitations were sent inviting the two of us, a dress code was clearly stated, correct food and beverage menu was offered and the RSVP date and method of reply added on the bottom. Again, thank you to both. This reaffirmed my faith in the way I was brought up.

But where did the following come from? And how on earth is this acceptable?

I have been invited to a few weddings recently where I have not been asked along with a partner. Hight of rudeness! Those who RSVP stating that they are attending alone are to be put on a singles table. It begged the question: why was I being subjected to a singles table, mostly consisting of my unmarried cousins whose ages range from five years of age to fifty?

When I asked the question to the embarrassed parents or immediate family members (asked with all the bitterness I could muster, and in front of other people as a way of causing maximum discomfort and to really drive home the fact that this was a mistake) their answer was: “It’s just so expensive these days”.

Pursing my lips together, I held back the overwhelming need to scream: “If you can’t afford to have a wedding, elope, you cheap bastards!

And how dare you stick in a list with all the gifts you want on it!!!! Don’t get me started with this new concept of the honeymoon fund. I am tempted to stick a $2 scratchy in an envelope and shove it in their ‘wishing well’. As for those who print their bank details on invitations? I can’t even go there. What a cheek!

And this is one for the books:

As the way we interact with each other changes, the traditional invitation sent via the post is becoming less common due to the introduction of email, text message and face book. Fine, we have to move with the times.

However, when I receive an invitation via one of these mediums asking me to an event, told how much it will cost me for them to have the pleasure of my company, provided with bank details in which to deposit said funds, I am outraged, appalled, disgusted and will refuse to attend on principle.

But that wasn’t the worst of it.

A day later, another message was sent from the “host” (and I use that term loosely), kindly letting us know that pre party entertainment drinks were to be had at their home. And get this: they were BYO!!! Can you imagine asking someone to a dinner party at your home, and charging them for the groceries? It’s outrageous, tight-assed, rude, shockingly tacky behaviour!

Perhaps I’m a stickler for this type of thing, but I can’t help getting riled about it. I know that the global financial crisis has taken its toll on our society, and that picture perfect ideals aren’t always possible. However, being adaptable and outright rude are two entirely different things.

Behaviour only becomes acceptable when people stop being shocked or outraged, and nothing is said. I know most people keep their opinions to themselves and hope that such uncomfortable situations won’t occur again. So I’m saying it on behalf of anyone who has been subjected to such eye widening rudeness. If you cannot afford to have a party where you provide the alcohol and food, don’t have one. If you can’t afford to ask your friends with their partners to your wedding, shrink the guest list. Believe me, people may forget what happened at your event, but they won’t forget that they had to foot the bill!

See you in the Village.

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