Dating Kinks with Miz Phoenix

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Dear Miz Phe,

This Valentine’s Day my boyfriend bought me fluffy handcuffs and we used them in foreplay.  I am embarrassed to say that I really enjoyed being tied up and restricted whilst he ravished me. I think I want him to take me further, to try out more intense stuff. Am I a pervert?



Dearest Butterfly89,

How exciting that you had such a beautiful experience with your boyfriend this Valentine’s Day!  Fluffy handcuffs are a great introduction to light forms of bondage and discipline. I am pleased you had fun.

Expressing your enjoyment with being restrained and ravished is not something to be ashamed of. You are not a pervert by any stretch of the imagination. Many couples explore light forms of bondage and discipline whilst learning about each other’s sexual interests.  Perhaps you are coming out of your cocoon and ready to explore the new you?

I am interested that your boyfriend bought the fluff handcuffs and proceeded to use them on you in a rather knowledgeable fashion.  Maybe he has always been fascinated by the idea of domination/ submission?

The key right now is for you to focus on communication. If you want to try out more intense bondage practices, talk to your boyfriend openly about your feelings. Share your desires and be free to explore them together.

~Miz Phe

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